She met me in the lobby, where I was waiting with my bundled up baby in his car seat and walked us to the meeting room as we made small talk about exercise.
She told me she was recently reminded of the importance of showing up for a workout, even when it’s too cold, you’re too tired, you don’t feel like going:
Consistency over intensity is what matters.
It really stuck with me.
Before the holidays I had planned to launch something in 2019 based on my research over the past two years, conversations with other parents and desire to get a Minimum Viable Product (MVP) out into the world so people could start interacting with it and give me real feedback.
But life always has other plans, doesn’t it?
Our toddler decided he didn’t love his part-time daycare anymore, it’s like he knew we were going to be removing him from it soon so why bother to go!
My husband’s work asked him to go to China, where there is currently a travel advisory on.
And most life-alteringly (in a hey, just reminding you of your mortal state way) a family member passed away suddenly.
While I have every reason to put things on the back burner and take a break I know I need to keep showing up.
Not for me, my ego or my personal desires.
People have thanked me for creating something for them, even though they may not have experienced it yet.
They have praised me for my ‘parentpreneur’ activism and the small changes towards diversity and inclusion which have started to happen in the business community in Ottawa.
When I have created something in its’ MVP form, I have been met with positive feedback and requests for different formats and locations.
It’s not about me, it’s about what it means for others like me.
Other primary caregivers see what I’m doing and agree: Parenthood and professional development shouldn’t be mutually exclusive.
In reality, I am but a one-woman show with my family of four and I’m doing the best I can, when I can.
That involves getting up earlier, working during nap times, taking my kids to meetings, setting boundaries and saying ‘no’ a lot more than pre-kids-Amy used to.
And I know from history when I stop showing up, things lose momentum and I can easily wake up one morning three months from now and be in the same place I was today.
But you can’t always rely on your loved ones to give you the tough love and real talk you need.
My toddler isn’t here asking me if I’ve set up my payment processors yet.
My baby doesn’t care if I’ve got a landing page up and ready or not.
My husband is ready to read my writing, when it’s done. But he’s not checking in constantly asking how the edits are going.
However, I did have a relative over Christmas asking me about my book and when it will be published. That old chestnut!
Even when you aren’t thinking about your goals, sometimes life taps you on the shoulder and reminds you time is finite…so get cracking already.
So in addition to my family and friends, I also have a great network of mentors, advisors, community organizations and general business contacts here in Ottawa and abroad who have been providing their feedback, introductions, support and encouraging the work I have been putting out into the world.
They push me to detach my emotions from my results and just get it out in the simplest form possible.
They speed up my progress with their connections and advice.
They welcome my family and I into business settings, so I can try to normalize it a bit more for myself and others.
They want me to keep showing up too.
Consistency over intensity is where it’s at and I’m learning from my children (and alongside them) every day.
Because like a baby/toddler/growing kid, you should always be upleveling.
I’m constantly in awe of the tenacity and perseverance found in little bodies.
My seven-month-old is at the baby gym every day, stretching and squatting on his way to full out crawling at any moment.
He never takes a ‘rest day’ and he keeps showing up, happy to be here every morning despite the fact he hasn’t figured out this whole crawling thing yet.
My toddler is mastering new words, skills and abilities all of the time. If he doesn’t know the answer to something, he asks a question.
If he doesn’t feel he can figure it out on his own, he asks for help.
Once he achieves what he’s set out to do, I hear a proud, “I did it!”
I’m all for relaxing every now and again and taking a proper break but it doesn’t mean you stop completely.
Consistency over intensity.
Small steps every day. Doing the best you can, when you can.
Have a plan to take it up a notch and get out of your comfort zone?
Great! Keep trying and flex those resiliency muscles.
Master one new skill alongside your children?
We want to hear about it!
Achieve a small goal you’ve been working towards for ages?
Yes! But not only focusing on the ‘goal’, where has it taken you, how do you feel and what does it mean for you and your family?
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