Everything you want is on the other side of fear. Celebrating IWD and conquering those limiting beliefs!

Babies, Business + Breakfast: Fear limiting beliefs IWD 2019

Happy (early) International Women’s Day! Or if you’re like the rest of social media, International Women’s Week?! 👶🏻📈☕️

What are you getting up to next week? If you’re looking for local events in Ottawa, start here.

In the spirit of transparency, camaraderie and hopefully to inspire you to #BYOBaby and/or pre-school age children into business settings, I’ll be attending a few events and meetings with and without my kids.

Yep, two under age three and the baby just started crawling…taking it up another level!

A Female Founder evening event solo (shocking!) and only if the kids don’t have a wild dinner/bed time once my husband gets home from work.

Then the whole family is hitting up a breakfast event about Angel Investing before I bring the boys to an event space tour to meet a new contact. My eldest went to his first Angel Investing talk when he was four months old…so it’s only fair for the new baby to be exposed as well. 🤓

I also plan to go to a lunchtime panel session later in the week but my husband may meet me to take the toddler for his own lunch one-on-one, so I’ll only have the baby with me.

Now I want you to know that out of the three events I am taking the kiddos to, I have so far spoken to two of the venues/hosts and the response has been ASTOUNDINGLY POSITIVE!

I will have a private training room for my husband and the kids to hang out in during the breakfast so we can have some space to play and I will actually get to focus on the presentation and network. At no extra cost or hassle to us, the venue offered it up as a solution when I initially asked if it was ok to bring them all with me due to the early start time. Game changing.

The next meeting host wrote back with a simple, “Kids are always welcome, see you next week.”

You see, it is amazing what can happen when you go ahead and register for something before questioning whether or not it’s really for you, if you’re ‘allowed’ to go or if you’ll be inconveniencing anyone.

Everything you want is on the other side of fear
My general rule of thumb is always ask for forgiveness instead of permission. But when it comes to ticketed events I do email the host, explain the situation and then wait for feedback.

Because when you disqualify yourself, you prevent yourself from having a potentially inspirational or educational experience.

When you expect the worst without asking first, you’re none the wiser.

When you don’t ask, you don’t get. Simple, huh?

In a completely unrelated to International Women’s Day/Week occurrence, I emailed a major tech conference coming to Canada this May to ask them about their policy when it comes to bringing children and their response was also delightful:

We don’t advise children to attend our conferences. However, if you are in a situation where you need to bring a child with you, please go to registration on the day. Here our team can give the child access to the conference free of charge. We also provide a parent and baby room at the venue. This will be clearly marked on our conference map when it’s released. It should be noted, our policy is for children under 3.

Otherwise, attendees under the age of 18 must have a valid ticket and be accompanied by an adult chaperone up until the point of conference registration/accreditation collection.

Then they also gave me a Women in Tech discount code so I plan to attend with another former colleague and friend and will bring the whole family with me to Toronto for a mixed vacation/business trip where I can alternate bringing the baby to sessions with me.

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To help other babies (and their primary caregivers) do the same, I have created a FREE resource based on my experiences attending over two dozen events with a baby and toddler (separately – are you crazy?!) in two different countries (England and Canada), with more planned for future!

For people who want to bring their kids into business settings with confidence. Feel more prepared and encouraged to try it out and keep trying if it doesn’t go as planned the first time!

Self-imposed and limiting beliefs are real but if you do some prep work, get comfortable with being a bit uncomfortable and decide to go for it, I promise it will be worth it. 👶🏻📈☕️

You’re not the only one who wants to do what you do, alongside the ones you love. 

Let’s talk about embracing failure, taking imperfect action, seeking feedback and learning as I go.

I (Amy Lynch, alongside my two kiddos under age three) tried to launch a Babies, Business and Breakfast Mini Mastermind this March to May 2019 but it didn’t fly.

I could bury my head in the sand, pretend it didn’t happen, delete the landing page, stare at you blankly when you ask how it’s going or just simply go and make myself a cup of tea, slice of cake and not send this email/post this post.

Instead, I’m going to make myself a cup of tea, slice of cake and send an email/post this post.

Why flaunt my failures?

Because I earned it, fair and square. I spent the past nine months talking to strangers, asking awkward questions, pitching while breastfeeding, cradling, rocking and/or bouncing my baby.

I used my toddler-free mornings while he was at part-time daycare to participate in the Impact Academy CityMaker program, conduct a bit of #BYOBaby activism in business settings, meet people to discuss the problem (lack of professional development options for primary caregivers) and my vision for potential solutions (more options, inclusion and accessible programming!).

I know I’m on to something and in creating a solution that didn’t work (the first launch time around) I have still started a small community of like-minded parents (mostly women tbh) who all feel similar pain points to you. And I.

They also believe parenthood and professional development shouldn’t be mutually exclusive.

And I’m not about to throw the towel in because I have had 0 actual registrations for a paid program.

Because I had email opens, responses and requests to register or access more information before there was an actual launch or price tag assigned.

So I believe the problem is still there and the solution is good but needs to be tweaked. I also may have missed something.

If you would be so kind as to reply to this post with your honest feedback, it would be greatly appreciated!

It could have been price, or the timeline, the program design or perhaps it just didn’t speak to you. Or maybe this is the first time you heard about it?!

If you send your two cents through I sincerely want to hear it all.
The good, the bad and the ugly!

Especially the ugly, I am really trying to soak in this failed attempt and learn from it. #failforward 🙌

I hope to hear from you soon!

Amy Maureen Lynch | Writer Parent Expat Founder Flexible Work Advocate

Published by Amy Maureen Lynch

Over the past decade, Amy Maureen Lynch has negotiated remote work arrangements, freelance client work and validated business ideas, in between living and working in Canada, Europe and Australia (and having three kids). She writes about travel, international family life, creativity and flexible work on her blog, where you can read about her experiences bringing her children into business settings and access flexible and remote work resources to help you navigate the future of work: notesfromanotherland.com. She produces and hosts the Mixing Babies And Business™ Podcast, parent-friendly professional development events, digital resources and advises others on creating inclusive and flexible work solutions at: mixingbabiesandbusiness.com Amy’s first book, Startup Blogging: Validate A Business Idea and Build Your Audience, is based on her journey as a blogger, writer, founder and parent to date.

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